Wednesday, April 4, 2012

How to Handle Difficult Situations

Once we have decided to live life here on Earth, Life is going to throw us some curve balls. We are going to have to face some really difficult situations and deal with some adversity in life.  Each obstacle that comes our way in life is like a delicious fruit with a bitter skin―we have to peel it before we can enjoy it. How you handle adverse situations will determine a lot about how your life turns out. In this post, I intend sharing with you some effective techniques you can adopt to deal with any kind of adversity that comes your way.Enjoy!
  •       Accept the Situation

 The first step you can take to deal with any difficult situation is to acknowledge the mess you find yourself in. In other words: accept your situation, but don’t give up. There is an old adage that goes like this: “He that is down need fear no fall” By accepting the worst possible outcome, we can relax. In a survival or terminal illness situation, many learn to accept that they may die.  Once they do, they find a sense of peace about it.  They stop trying to control things they have no power over and focus on those actions they can take. This actually increases their chance of survival. By accepting your limitations, you diffuse the emotions that can work against you

  • Ask lots of questions
Questions, especially the short powerful variety are a great way of getting to the core issue.  Questions like, “How did I get in this situation?” “What do I do to get out of it?” This is necessary because questions trigger its own set of answers, which lead to certain emotions, which then lead to certain actions, followed by results. Think of it a bit like peeling an onion, each layer is getting you closer to the core.
  • Tackle the right next thing.
Survivors have to be able to break down complex situations into smaller, more manageable tasks. How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time! The smaller the steps you take in a difficult situation, the betterThis allows you to build confidence and regain your composure. A little success can go a long way toward helping you to regain your senses. Once your brain is back on track you will make better decisions about your next move.
Finally, always keep a good support system. The support system can consist of friends, family or a group of people that are going through the same difficult situation; you would find the energy to break free.